Hayes (and all the other children for that matter) is so fortunate that God has placed a role model like Joel in his life. I think this picture portrays that relationship so beautifully. Joel has been such a tremendous role model to all of the children through such incredible pain. He lost his sister. He is now an only child - with the full responsibility for his family. Yet, he never lets that responsibility deter him from what God has called him to do. He works hard, loves deeply, gives fully of himself. He has endured the pain with such an elegance, a determination to bring good from all the evil that touched our family. We are so blessed to have him leading our family!